Rihanna was recently interviewed on the Oprah Winfrey Network providing many updates in her life. The update of her past relationship with Chris Brown was of course a main topic of the interview and I’m sure many viewers were tuned in to watch her response. Rihanna said that she has forgiven Chris. My response..kudos to you girl! I was raised in a household in which my mother always told me forgiveness and acknowledgement are major factors in growth. We live in a society that praises us for all of things we do well, but scolds us on our mishaps. Last I checked, no individual was granted the gift of a perfect genetic code, so why is there so much ridicule that Rihanna has forgiven and moved on with her life?
Hollywood paints the picture they want us to see. People took a significant stand in support of Rihanna on the event that went viral in 2009, but people are outraged that she’s forgiving him. I am curious to find out who had access to police and medical records, were there to witness it, or are close with either party to truly understand the realm of what happened to have an opinion on how either Rihanna or Chris Brown have arrived at where they are today.
On my way to work the other day I heard a radio personality discuss the matter. She said that Rihanna is a role model for young girls and her forgiving Chris Brown is a terrible idea because it tells girls it’s ok to get back into an abusive relationship. While Rihanna has sold millions of records and the youth is often found dancing in clubs to her music, the idea of her being a role model is slightly alarming. I do not knock her success by any means, but given I cannot pick up the phone and call her, I don’t realistically find her to be someone I’d look up to. Furthermore, while many young girls may find her as a role model for whatever particular reason, Rihanna’s choices in her own life shouldn’t be the reason a teenage girl chooses to go back to an abusive relationship. My moral values and life lessons started in the living room of the home I grew up in..it’s that simple. Anything I ever had a concern with or needed assistance with started with my parents. It is up the the parents, guardians and mentors of the next generation to take control and talk about these matters. Instead of being outraged at Rihanna for her own choices to forgive, use that energy to foster the youth and teach them to become true contributing citizens to society.
Jane Cowen-Fletcher wrote a book, released in 1994 titled, It Takes a Village, a concept adapted from an old african proverb. I fundamentally believe that it takes a village, maybe even a nation, or better yet a world to raise children. This, however, does not mean we should leave it up to Hollywood to tell it all. Take back the control and start the conversation at the dinner table.
Should we be outraged that Rihanna has forgiven or should we support her decisions thus far as she took the necessary legal steps in 2009 and has now taken the emotional steps to grow as a human being?
While my opinion is strong, you tell me….